“On the other hand, I can’t help but feeling it’s sort of reinforcing that old stigma, that old association with homosexuality/feminisation.”Įspecially in the meme fallout around a certain Hottest 100 champ, it’s surely not all celebratory. “There’s been a sort of word on the street that it is a masculating act or it is empowering or something like that,” says Dr Jay. It seems to imply now (not unlike the reaction to DJ Khaled’s refusal to eat pussy) that you’re less of a man if you don’t rim. The big question ‘Do you even eat ass?’ or ‘What? You don’t eat ass!?’ Jay says it’s become a signifier of your manhood. There are benefits not just for the arseholes of the world but in regards to the changing nature of male sexuality and the prioritising of both partners’ pleasure. “Straight men aren’t afraid of being associated with a practice that’s historically been coded ‘gay’ and therefore feminising, and that might well be a good thing.”

“I’d say it’s actually got quite a broad appeal.”ĭr Jay Daniel Thompson, agrees that the stigma surrounding arse eating among straight men has diminished considerably in recent times and points to shifting models of masculinity.

“People of any gender and any sexuality can either be the person doing the licking or the person being licked there’s lots of flexibility,” says Louise Bourchier. So for those of you who have any questions about how to give it a go if you’re anal-curious, The Hook Up enlisted the help of sex educator Louise Bourchier and Dr Jay Daniel Thompson, a researcher and lecturer in media, and gender and sexuality studies at the University of Melbourne.

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